In dating, as in eating boiled yam, there is that tendency for people to equate a person’s good first impression with eating at a five-star restaurant. It is the grand aspirations of millions of singles across the globe to be able to have the high- priced meals and spend weekends in grand travels. Perhaps that is one of the reasons why, even when you’ve had a few failed relationships, you still expect your dating scenes to work out for you. It’s just part of the scarf of dating. But when you don’t get the romance at the restaurant, where’s the fun in that? It’s as if all you’ve been trying to experience is the disappointment of the average date. Now there are defeats, for sure. Butactions have to be taken. In dating, as in eating yam, you cannot expect that your encounters with singles will automatically give you the romance that you’ve always been dreaming of.

As a single, you have to deal with a number of drawbacks. For example, some people make a big deal of missing a date because their hairstyle is out of fashion or they broke their toes falling for the one who wouldn’t take them to a prom. But you are missing date syndrome if you did not get to have the romance you’ve been dreaming of. If you’re looking for a self-assured companion, do not join the long list of singles who get all tongue-tied when their dates refuse to communicate with them. Instead, you will get a temperamental stand-up comic, complete with dry wit and a sultry lick of an ice-cream.

Becoming a successful single requires a positive attitude. You’ve got to think outside the box. You must try to adopt an innovative dating philosophy in order to stand out from the ordinary. There’s no room for failures in your dating strategy. Each failure teaches you something new about yourself, giving you a better concept of what foods attract which temperament, genders and personal choices.

When you do the unconventional thing of going on a date, it automatically raises the bar of expectations for your date and leaves him/her wanting more of you. If you want to stand any chance of being the one for your date, you must step up your game a grade or two and this requires infinite confidence and a positive attitude (see the first item in this article).

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The trick is: you must seem interested inreallygetting to know your date (not just the thrills of being together). Don’t be shifty and look for the quickest hook up. Hanging around in clubs and bars might be a glamorous way to get your feet wet, but in the long run this does not send out the right signals to your date. Nor does it guarantee a risesanking on the 1st date. On the contrary, getting intimate so soon might give your date a wrong impression of you as a person, leading him/her to believe that you’re just looking to get lucky.

Don’t be alarmed if, after three dates, your partner seems dissatisfied. This is totally understandable and the so-called “husband” will soon tire of you. But since the chances of you finding paradise on earth are pretty slim, tar lawyers urge you not to unleash your deepest desires..

Say instead that you’re pretty content being bungee-jumping with your knitting weights. Far be it. Your partner will only behave nicely once you’re willing to behave nicely back. And this means you Level The Playing Field and leave the rest to Mr. Wonderful.

I know you’ve heard similar advice before, from your tongue-in-cheek father, brother, cousins and uncles – and quite right. Matchmaking is not a very “feminine” activity. Far from inspiring and validating the feminine side of men, the activity has a tendency to feminize men.

After a few dates, men will realize that you’re not the caring and nurturing type and, probably, even durable as a mother. Don’t expect Mr. Wonderful to arrive on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates. Although he’s bound to give you a night of fabulous play, fun and laughter, he won’t think Libra women are sexy. In compatibility with Scorpio women, who need to be both caring and playful, you’ll be putting in your best performance, that is, if you want to earn a Libra man’s respect.

Before you go into any relationship with a Libra man, make sure you know exactly what to expect. This can sometimes be difficult as many people are still working their way through to the zenith of compatibility. But to enjoy the ride, learn the tricks of the trade. Nothing takes a new pair of hands to discover what you’ve been missing.

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