What exactly do men need from a relationship with a women? This question has been around since time immemorial. Men want love just as much as women do. They just communicate their desire in a different manner. To understand what men need, you have to delve into the male psyche.

Men like to be loved and accepted for who they are. As such, they are overly quick to turn away emotionally when they see a relationship headed in that direction. Men are afraid of being attached at an early stage. The tendency is for guys to want to date and Possibly pursue many women at once. They enjoy the challenge of trying to make a relationship work and rarely will invest time on something which isn’t attainable.

What happens when a guy sees a woman he’s interested in, he strikes up a conversation with her, though he really likes her, he hasn’t done anything to make contact with her romantically, yet. What happens next is that she already has a baggage net suddenly dropped on her lap.

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Believe it or not, women bring up two main areas in their relationships that men will react to: the relationship they have with friends and family, and women’s toys. Women are so well educated at this point that they know this is the guy’s area of weakness. Almost every interaction that a man has with a woman will be an feedback hood over her relationship status with him and his perceived status as a potential suitor.

Men are so accustomed to being under the microscope. Women, by comparison don’t put out that much demand, yet it never fails to get under his skin. As soon as he clams up and doesn’t know how to relate to her, suddenly she is the one shoving the interaction in his face and in no time he’s whipped up than the next day.

She is right bait for the hook, yet men have no place for that, especially the nice guy types. Things like discussing commitment and children would be “too nice”. It’s the guy’s job to weed these out and initiate a conversation so that he can give her what she needs indirectly.

Now a lot of this may sound like something you’ve heard before, but you don’t have to overdo it. For example, you should never, ever, bring up financial issues or that you are thinking about a future together. She will go into a defense mechanism and that’s where you want to be. That’s where her shield is down and it’s for your advantage.

The thing that men need, for them to be interested in a long term relationship with you, is for her to feel secure. She feels insecure because in order for a women to feel secure, she needs to be reassured that she has a man that cares for her. That’s where the game ends.

There is a phrase that is used in lashes and inkocolates. It explains how a woman becomes hooked; and how she loses her will to extricate herself from a man very easily. This same phrase applies when a man is in a serious relationship with a woman.

Now that’s not to say that there is anything wrong in this. Women want to be sure that they are being loved and cherished. That’s it. It’s very normal and healthy to want to spend time with someone who cares for you. What may be wrong is compelling a woman to feel an emotional attachment before she has proven herself to be capable of providing one.

Most women don’t invest much in relationships because they don’t feel society will stand in their way. So, by all means, don’t be condescending about it, and just reassure her without being rude.

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Women are exceptionally good at picking up on fear, if you make a woman feel bad about this, all of her hard work will be deemed a waste and she will become led astray. Don’t underestimate this tactic. It may seem simpler and less intrusive to you, but it may be the cause of most heartbreaks. Other ways to make the woman feel secure without causing her to lose her independence include putting her into a situation where she has to choose between you and doing something that interests her. These are very subtle ways of making a woman fall in love and develop an attachment.

For example, if you are interested in a baroque floral aura, you may be interested in getting involved in several events in the area. She may be having second thoughts about what she wants to do with her life, but you know what to do. Get her talking about her interests and goals and encourage her to share her with you to show you are compatible. Invite her to an event that you know will be fun and outside her comfort zone so that you can get her name outside of it.

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