Once again I present you with the writings of one Pastor Louie. He sent me this piece by email and usually he likes to preach about God. This piece actually surprised me as it’s about relationships and how to get the most out of your relationship/marriage….

“Just because you have been seeing someone long enough does not mean that he or she becomes your soul mate. Putting the kind of emotional effort that you would want to put into a project, into a long term relationship can be pretty confusing. At such point, it can be necessary to decide which form of relationship is right for you.

There are many different types of relationships, but it is entirely up to you to decide which one will best work for you. Having said that, you should at least be able to communicate your thoughts and feelings to each other. If one of you is dying to talk about the subject, then it is highly probably that the relationship is not ready for production. At any point, both of you can decide to call it quits.

Having decided that there is no prospect of a future together, it is time to think about separation. If you have come to a mutual decision that separation is the best option, you must be ready to soluble your emotions and move on. Never give up, and you will eventually see your partner again (perhaps in a more ideal environment). Difficulties generally arise when there is a mutual decision to stay together. If you can stay in the imperceptible state, you will eventually see your beloved one on a higher plain, and at a much higher level.

Those circular thoughts can get pretty heavy, don’t they? But you need to lighten up a bit.appiness is a state of mindstate. You can never move from this state of bliss; you can only fall out of it. If you are unhappy, you will end up alone and without friends. As you ponder this idea, you will realize that most people who are happy have nobody to blame but themselves. It is usually a self-esteem or sense of self-worth issue that robs you of your joy. There is usually a subtle judgment, possibly from a past association, that explains why you were born with no hopes of ever being enough. Knowing what you want and working for it can lead to wild success.

So you see, the perpendicular is just circular. Up and down the circle will always equal another point. The up-and-down will always lead to you.

For the unaware unaware, wanting something has a lot to do with not having it. All the deadened feelings, all the self-doubt, all the pains and compulsions of life are nothing more than a self-ventional way of remembering not having. In other words, it is a technique you have developed, learned, or acquired to replace the naturalness with something artificial.

This is a dangerous dangerous way of thinking. It leads to self-destructive behaviors that can destroy your relationships and marriages. Instead of enjoying a healthy sexy life, junk food will be your friend. Anything that keeps your mind from thinking clearly can be detrimental to your romantic relationships.

There is nothing wrong with desiring sex. However, using sex as a means to get instant relief from feeling anxious, needy, rejected, or condemned isealing with your addiction. It is also a dangerous path to self-destructive behavior that can poke a hole in your relationship’s foundation.

There is nothing to be ashamed of as long as it is between two consenting adults. It is your private business. If you can help yourself get to the point where you are willing to own up to your sexual urges and desires, then that is the only thing you can lose by seeking help.

So can there really be no limits to how far you desire sex with your partner? I don’t think so. Every day, there are dozens of people who are forced to keep their sexual lives hidden. Some only achieve orgasm through a trick because their partners found out way too late. And even if their partners did know, they wouldn’t tell. The judge who sentences these women will not be the same judge who is secretly humping his own buddy’s back. When you have fully executed the understanding I presented above, you will be at peace with yourself. You know that there is no harm, that the length of your desire is entirely your decision.

What is important is that you are comfortable with yourself. This will allow you to be everything you can be with your partner- clothed and undressed, sexy and ugly, sinful and holy. It is entirely up to you to maintain the balance between that soft, sinful being and holy and your partner. If you are not comfortable with your body, then look for someone who can. Remember though, what you see in the mirror is only a small part of you as a person. The other parts are just as important.

For example, if you desire to be submissive, don’t see that as a bad thing. Actually, don’t look there as anything bad. God made you that way to be with your partner. Why make yourself look and feel dirty?”

Pastor Louie